Why Plans Fall Apart (even those you made with a coach)
Let’s say you went to a coach because you had a goal to achieve. Or perhaps you even picked that goal during a coaching session and now wanted to make sure you accomplished it.
How did it feel setting that goal? What did you imagine about yourself and your new life upon reaching it?
And to reach a goal you probably made a plan. You outlined specific steps and set a timeline.
Were feeling a little intoxicated by the vision of the soon-to-arrive greatness?
And then…
And then it was time to take action.
And that’s when things started slowing down if not outright falling apart. As days passed, you felt less and less enthusiastic about your plan. You were falling behind the schedule, and constantly running out of time. Other priorities were constantly getting in the way.
Obstacles appeared out of nowhere. You found a myriad flaws with the plan and started doubting the original goals.
Your once great plan simply started unraveling.
Were you feeling guilty about not following through and doubting yourself and your very ability to ever get anything done? Were you getting an uneasy feeling before your next coaching session because you had promised to share progress with your coach.
But you had little to show to your coach, your accountability partner.
Does any of that sound familiar? It doesn’t have to. If this scenario hasn’t happened, it may in the future, because it’s all too common. So keep reading!
Why do our plans fail, come apart at the seams, crash and burn or just fizzle out no matter how enthusiastic we felt about them at first?
From the Core Energy coaching perspective, those plans might have been doomed from the get go because there was no energy behind them in the first place.
- If your goal was not really what you truly wanted on a deeper level, there was no energy
- If you didn’t believe or had unresolved doubts about your own ability to succeed, there was no energy
- If you made a plan, for example, a job search plan, out of fear, anger or another type of negative emotions, you did not have the positive energy to drive it to completion
- If the goals you set were not aligned with your true values but followed someone else’s advice based on that person’s values and opinions, there was no energy
You had a temporary surge of energy when you were making the plan. That was an illusion. You believed at the moment you wanted that goal and were happy you saw a clear path to reaching it. A coach might have boosted your enthusiasm even further. But only temporarily.
Most likely you jumped to the planning and action stage too soon.
You moved to action before you explored the underlying thoughts and feelings about the situation you wanted to address. Before you built what Core Energy coaching calls an energetic buy-in.
And here is how Core Energy coaching differs from other types of coaching.
Regular coaches often view their roles and measure success by helping their clients make and carry out all sorts of plans. They want their clients to get their money’s worth by accomplishing as much as possible as quickly as possible. They jump to the “doing” stage right away or at least very quickly. And often that works.
But just as often that approach doesn’t work. Or it works initially – clients force themselves through a plan only to realize in the end that was not what they truly wanted. Then they go back to the drawing board, back to the coach, quickly set a new goal, make a new plan, and the cycle repeats itself.
Core Energy coaching, on the other hand, does not rush you into action until you’ve sufficiently explored your thoughts, feelings, prior actions and energy that put you in the current situation.
A Core Energy coach is trained to make sure you shift your energy and put it behind any action plan you are about to create. There are specific coaching techniques for that. That leads to energetic buy-in.
And once your energy has shifted in the right direction, it’ll be behind the goal and every step of the way to accomplish it.
And then your plan won’t fall apart.
